To the girl who loves having her picture taken,

I am sorry I need to break this to you.

I do not know where you are right now or what you are doing; I do not know if you are reading this before your 7th birthday or after your 13th birthday; I also do not know if it is the proper time to tell you this. All I know is the fact that what I am about to tell you holds importance.

Maybe the people around you will think otherwise once they read this letter, but I know you. I know how much this is going to affect you. I also know how much this is going to shock you.

The thing is, one day, you will find yourself avoiding the idea of having yourself photographed.

It is hard to believe knowing how much you love having your photographs taken, but trust me on this one. It is something you will never see coming and it will fill your mind with questions.

“What happened to my love of seeing photographs of me?”

“Why did my love for it suddenly vanish?” 

“Was it because of the judgmental stares I always think other people give me? Was it because of how much I criticize myself based on other people’s subjective beauty standards? Or was it because of the way I tend to always compare myself to others?”

These are just some of the questions you will ask yourself.

I seldom wish for something, but, right now, I am wishing that before you find yourself hating the idea of being photographed, you remember the way your eyes gleam whenever you notice the lens of the camera focused on you; the way your lips curves up and part to reveal your teeth; and the way your body manages to do different poses before every click of the shutter button.

I am wishing for you to remember the way you do not bother thinking about how you would look; the way you do not seem to care about your angles; and the way you do not see every one of your photographs as something that can fall into two adjectives: beautiful or ugly.

I am wishing for you to remember and to never forget these things.

Those two adjectives cannot and will never encompass the moment captured in the photograph. Whenever you stare at your pictures, I hope you see a glimpse of the moment and not your physical attributes that you think needs changing.

I hope you see yourself, and not your appearance.

Love,

the girl who used to love having her picture taken


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My inspiration for this is the popular blog format “a letter to my past self”. As you can see, this is my letter to my past self: the girl who loves having her picture taken. I hope I successfully presented it that way.

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59 thoughts on “To the Girl Who Loves Having Her Picture Taken

  1. There were also times when I was younger where I was too scared of taking pictures. Everyone would talk about my curly hair. Uso kasi rebonded nun. Haha! It was only SHS when I realized that this is something I should be proud of. 🙂 Thank you for reminding me to accept myself and love myself the most.

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  2. I never stopped taking pictures of myself. I love finding old pictures and the memories I get to relive when I see those pictures!

    xo Jules
    dearblissbyjules.com

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  3. As I get older, I think I’m enjoying to capture the moment with the environment more than me taking a photo of just myself. That’s how loving myself does to me. It’s really not about the looks anymore, but the memories I would keep.

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  4. Oh I so relate to this! Our photo’s have a 10-15 year gap where I stopped taking photos of myself. Now I’ve fully embraced the selfie and live with some regret over those overly self-analytic years!

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  5. Awww. I love this one too. I still look ugly in pictures, but I continue to take them because I like to and I don’t care about what others think. It’s all about confidence and learning to love yourself for who you are. And, I’m sure you’ll get there girl. You’re already on your way.

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  6. This letter is written with depth. I see my teenage self in your words.
    Agree that photos do not define and capture what is within; just a picture of a superficial image that can fade away. What is important is in the inside.

    Growing up, I avoided photos too. But as you get older, these are the only memories you can bring specially if you’re with your family or loved ones. Just not fond of selfie — but I love taking photos of food, scenery, and people I love. 🙂

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    1. Hi, Bethan Taylor-Swaine! Do not worry! I am currently in the process of embracing my whole self. The main reason I wrote this is that I want to make it my inspiration to change how my story (about having my picture taken) is written.

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  7. What a beautiful reflection and letter to yourself (I presume). It was a bit disheartening, but in a way that caused me to reflect on parts of the old me that I allowed to fall to the wayside without picking them back up or nurturing them. Thank you for this lovely and meaningful post.

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  8. I also had a moment when I didn’t want to have my photos taken. I am completely different now, I want my photographs to be taken to go down the memories lane in time

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    1. Hi! Thank you so much for checking my blog out! I would surely check out your blog, too! I also love reading creative works, but it is seldom that I find some pieces. I am glad that you shared with me the link to one of your pieces!

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  9. I’m sorry this changed for you! I definitely am finding as I get older I like myself in pictures less and less. Yet somehow I still enjoy taking them. But never solo pictures, I have this need to constantly capture the moment I am in. Sometimes it’s unhealthy and obsessive, and other times I am glad I did because I look back at those memories fondly.

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  10. Self-love is important for our overall well-being. Again, you may be surprised that other’s minds are not filled with judgements about you, but with appreciation.

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  11. At my age, I do not like having my photographs taken. Why? For the exact same reasons you mentioned. I keep looking for that bubbly little girl with bright eyes and cute smile. Where is she? Now all I see in my photographs is an aged mom of 3 adults, hair up in a ponytail, no make up, with sad and tired eyes. I have to embrace who I am now, now my physical appearance, but for that beautiful soul that is inside this old body.

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    1. That is what I am actually trying to learn, Kristine Nicole Alessandra. Sometimes, instead of focusing on the inside, I tend to dwell on the outside. Although that is the case, I am trying my hardest in order to improve that.

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  12. I recommend you to read the Power from Rhonda Byrne. You will love it. And maybe you will be able to add the solution <3. What you wrote is beautiful.

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